Guys, what would you do? Ladies, what would you prefer we do?

Started by SepiaAndDust, Nov 08, 2024, 02:16 PM

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SepiaAndDust

I'm a guy, and the place I live can get pretty snowy. I lived alone in an apartment at the time, the Beloved and I hadn't yet moved in together.

Anyway, there was a snowstorm. I came dragging in around 7 one morning, and the parking lot was covered in snow. A few cars had been in and out, turning the snow into ice.

A woman, a few years younger than me, was walking out to her car. I'd seen her before, maybe said hi, but I didn't even know her name. Then she slipped and fell down hard. I may be confabulating, but I remember my feet feeling the thud when she hit.

My first instinct was to rush to help her up. But I didn't think that would be appropriate, so I just stood there (about 5 feet away) until she collected herself, and I asked if she was okay. She said she was.

So what's the right thing to do there? If she'd been another guy, I would have offered a hand up. But a strange guy approaching a woman who's already on the ground... intentions aside, that seemed a little skeevy to me.

(I got a lot of good answers last time I posted this. I wonder if things have changed in the past few years.)

SepiaAndDust

I ran the situation past the Beloved.

Her response was that since I wasn't a total stranger and she knew I had a good reason for being there, it would have been okay to approach her. But...

Her: It would be different if it was some random scary looking guy.
Me: Honey, I look like this (gestures to my scarred face and wild hair).
Her: Oh, yeah....